5 Upbringing Rules From Japanese Parents We Want to Adopt

Japanese children are amazing. As a rule, they’re polite, friendly, and don’t let their feelings run wild. In Japan, you’ll rarely meet a child who’s crying in the supermarket (though there are always exceptions to the rule).

Babysitti.com thinks that we ought to learn some upbringing tricks from Japanese parents. So we’ve collected 5 main principles of raising children in Japan.

1. The mother-child relationship is tight.


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In Japan, the connection between a mother and her child is really strong. They sleep together and mothers always carry their kids around with them — in the past, mothers would use something resembling a baby sling.

The mother-child bond is deeply emotional: mothers accept everything their children do — their children are perfect in their eyes.

The main rule says that before a child turns 5, they’re allowed to do what they want. Foreigners see this as permissiveness and overindulgence but they’re mistaken. This principle lets children know that they’re good.

Kitagawa Utamaro/ Depositphotos – KIKUGAWA Eizan

Japanese artists’ works from the end of the 17th century / the beginning of the 18th century. On the right, you can see a mother and her child enjoying goldfish.

Such an attitude contributes to “amae.” This word has no analogs in other languages, but it can be translated as “one’s desire to be loved” or simply “attachment”. “Amae” is the foundation of relationships between mothers and children. It means that children can rely on their parents and their love, and elderly parents receive their adult children’s support.

There was a study conducted by American and Japanese scientists that proves there’s a connection between an encouraging upbringing style and children’s behavior. Researchers claim that parents’ positive attitudes reduce the risk of problematic behavior in kids and improve the behavior of children with developmental disorders.

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